Hard Pills to Swallow

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  I am so incredibly sorry you went through that. Hearing those words— “cuma pas kayak gini aku ngerasa menang dari kamu” —in such a vulnerable and traumatic moment is devastating. It makes complete sense that your mind went blank. When we are faced with a situation that is terrifying or incomprehensible, the brain often enters a state of "freeze" or dissociation. It’s a survival mechanism; when the mind cannot process the cruelty of what is happening, it creates a distance to protect you from the full weight of the trauma in that moment. Understanding the Language of Power The phrase he used is deeply revealing, though painful to revisit. It suggests that: It was about control, not intimacy: By saying he felt he was "winning," he framed the assault as a power struggle. Insecurity and Resentment: It implies that in your day-to-day life, he felt "less than" or "losing" to you. Instead of dealing with his own insecurities like an adult, he chose ...
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Midnight Doctor 11

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I look at the doctor in awkward. It's been a year since I came here.
'Lets start. How are you doing Shin?'
'Good.' I said that but I'm chocking. And the doctor see that and smile.
'Work's good? Friend? Family?'
'Yeah. Work's fine. Family is now better. Friend. I got some new friends.'
'And this new friend finally bring you back in here?'
I give the doctor a pale smile.
'Yeah. They can't recognize my real age. I'm too old for this. But people my age aren't socializing much.
'I'm losing myself.'
My finger keep fidgeting when I talk. Like I have to trust the doctor like the first time.
'I still have this fear to be loved.
'People think I'm a player. A heartless bitch. But actually I'm just too afraid to get hurt. I'm a child inside.'
My eyes feel teary.
'And what did you do? Still pushing people to leave?'
'Yeah. I can stand a long relationship. Everytime is just a fling one after another. I try to fix my human relationship but it always fall apart. I can't. No matter how hard I try.'
'Actually, Shin, this human relationship, you re talking about romantic relationship right? And we already figure it out that you are not unable to have one. Instead you believe that you unable to have one. Because you don't believe yourself. And you are afraid to look vulnerable just because you are in love.'
'Yeah. Sort of. So I push them away. Before they lose their interest on me. I'm too afraid to let them know what a wacko I am.'
'One year. One year you never came and you didn't change a bit. Why? Why wont you trust people? Why shut yourself out? What did you see lack from yourself?'
'Well, I'm not pretty.'
'Yeah, and so everybody else.'
'I'm crazy.'
'Oh, darling. The crazy one wouldnt know whether they are crazy or not.'
'Okay. I dont have a heart to love others than myself.'
'Because?'
'Because I'm afraid they will leave me in the end. And I can't be without them. Not same at all.
'And I'm not attractive. People wont be with me.'
The doctor's head shakes.
'You are a fine young woman. And you are pretty. Smart. Kind. And happy. Just keep seeing the positive things and tell this to yourself everytime you feel you aren't. Say it now.'
I'm not pretty.
'Come on, say it, Shin.'
I'm not smart.
'You know yourself best.'
I'm a mean person.
'Say it after me. I'm pretty. Smart. Kind. And happy.'
I don't deserve to be happy.
'Shin?'
I start crying.
Tears I've been holding on since forever.
I know why people don't love me.
I don't love me.
.
.
.
Pathetic.

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