Hard Pills to Swallow

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  I am so incredibly sorry you went through that. Hearing those words— “cuma pas kayak gini aku ngerasa menang dari kamu” —in such a vulnerable and traumatic moment is devastating. It makes complete sense that your mind went blank. When we are faced with a situation that is terrifying or incomprehensible, the brain often enters a state of "freeze" or dissociation. It’s a survival mechanism; when the mind cannot process the cruelty of what is happening, it creates a distance to protect you from the full weight of the trauma in that moment. Understanding the Language of Power The phrase he used is deeply revealing, though painful to revisit. It suggests that: It was about control, not intimacy: By saying he felt he was "winning," he framed the assault as a power struggle. Insecurity and Resentment: It implies that in your day-to-day life, he felt "less than" or "losing" to you. Instead of dealing with his own insecurities like an adult, he chose ...
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Wounded Healer

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'I'm broken' the girl says, 'if u okay with that, I'm all urs.'
The boy stunned for a while 'we re all broken. I got some wounds too. Would u accept that?'

Sore ini, saya membalas tweet yang berujung menjadi sesi curhat. Hey, I'm not trying to be love counselor, it just I got some thought about her problem.

Pass the past. Semua orang punya masa lalu. Mungkin hitam kelam hingga membuatnya tak mampu tersenyum lagi. Atau terlalu mulus tanpa cacat. Apa pun itu, when u decided to be with him/her, take them as they are. Including their past.

Trust him/her like u want them to trust u. Gue gampang percaya sama orang, gue percaya semua orang itu baik. Ibaratnya kayak praduga tak bersalah lah. And in any kind of relationship, saat lo udah gak percaya lagi sama seseorang, apa pun yang dia katakan/lakukan, akan terasa salah. Simply because u don't trust them.

Talk ur mind. Gue sering ngetweet gini: I wish I could mastered occlumency, so I can see through ur brain. Cowok gak akan ngerti cewek, cewek juga kesulitan ngerti cowok. Terutama cewek, we might got theories why boys do what they do, but we still in big question mark. So, speak ur mind. Tell him/her, it's easy when u trust one and another.

Be prepared. U might think u know him/her very well. Tapi saat lo bertanya tentang suatu hal, siap-siap aja dengan jawabannya. Belum tentu dia bakal ngasih jawaban yang sesuai perkiraan lo. Selalu ada kemungkinan, lo kecewa dengan jawaban mereka. Dan gue gak nyaranin lo nanya-nanya soal masa lalu. What's done is done.

Finally the girl says 'I'm afraid. Don't wanna hurt any longer, anymore.'
The boy try to looking at her eyes 'I can promise u nothing, but if u wanna give us a try, I'm all in.'

Disclaimer: I'm not love conselor and don't want to be one. Lagian udah pada gede kan? Bisa lah pilah-pilih sendiri.

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