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  I am so incredibly sorry you went through that. Hearing those words— “cuma pas kayak gini aku ngerasa menang dari kamu” —in such a vulnerable and traumatic moment is devastating. It makes complete sense that your mind went blank. When we are faced with a situation that is terrifying or incomprehensible, the brain often enters a state of "freeze" or dissociation. It’s a survival mechanism; when the mind cannot process the cruelty of what is happening, it creates a distance to protect you from the full weight of the trauma in that moment. Understanding the Language of Power The phrase he used is deeply revealing, though painful to revisit. It suggests that: It was about control, not intimacy: By saying he felt he was "winning," he framed the assault as a power struggle. Insecurity and Resentment: It implies that in your day-to-day life, he felt "less than" or "losing" to you. Instead of dealing with his own insecurities like an adult, he chose ...
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Suatu hari temen gue bilang, 'shin, si mas itu pas wisuda duduk depan gue loh'; 'shin, pas jgtc gue papasan sama mas itu lagi payungan bareng cewek'. objek yang dibahas di sini adalah mantan pacar.
Waktu itu belum ada facebook apalagi twitter path dan line. Karena sempat sharing password friendster akhirnya gue gak mengupdate socmed itu lagi. Gue berusaha menahan diri nggak meng-update tentang orang ini. Tapi gimana dong kalau fakta bertubi-tubi disodorkan ke muka gue? waktu itu rasanya bitter sih.
Hari hari belakangan ini lepas dari majalah fashion remaja ternama di Jakarta, gue masih rutin disodorkan fakta terbaru tentang keadaan di dalam majalah itu. Sebagian bikin gue berkomentar 'i told you' atau 'hah? kayak kurang kerjaan aja' juga 'maksudnya baik, gue rasa'.
Gue selalu senang kok terima updatean baru tentang apa aja. Cuma karena gue move on kagak berarti gue shut the door kan?
Ketika suatu hari mas itu whatsapp gue akan kabar pernikahannya akhir taun lalu pun, gue santai santai aja.
Knowledge is power also curse. Tergantung bagaimana kita mendayagunakannya.
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