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Morning Questions

Biarpun gak suka ditanya-tanya, gue punya banyak pertanyaan untuk diri gue sendiri.

Why u always rushing things?
Karena gue penasaran akhirnya kayak gimana. Dan di otak gue, prosesnya udah mulai berjalan. Karena gue pengen semua cepet berakhir?

What is ur biggest fear?
Being anonymous. Shinta who?

How do u see urself at ur 40s yo?
I wish I have a healthy brain.

Looking at urself 5 year ago, if u can meet her, what would u say to her?
Choose ur friend wisely.

U got a time machine, what time u wanna go? Why?
A year ago. Shinta setahun yang lalu harus diperingatkan, nggak semua orang bisa dipercaya.

Things make u upset?
Unable to trust people.

U re in trouble. What do u do first?
Duduk, take a deep breath dan mulai menelusuri darimana sumber masalahnya. Honestly, kadang biarpun udah tau sumber masalahnya, gue nggak berani menyelesaikannya.

Somethings u wanna change about urself?
The hormon. Can u control ur hormon?

Precious thing in life?
Faith.

How do u define success?
Be able to eat and sleep well.

10 question from and to my quirky mind. I keep asking myself question to stay sane. As a reminder.

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